Go slow, use plenty of lube, and start small. Everything you need for safe, comfortable exploration.
Anal play is common and can be enjoyable for people of any gender. Because the anus is delicate and does not self-lubricate, taking it slowly and following a few safety basics is important.
The golden rules
- Use lots of lubricant, and reapply often — water-based is a safe all-rounder.
- Start small and build up gradually; never rush.
- Only use toys with a flared base or retrieval cord designed for anal use.
- Relax — tension makes it uncomfortable. Stop if there is pain.
- Use condoms to reduce the risk of STIs, and change them when switching between anal and vaginal contact to avoid spreading bacteria.
- Wash toys, hands and the area before and after.
Hygiene and infection
Bacteria from the bowel can cause infections if transferred to the vagina, urethra or mouth. Always use a fresh condom or wash thoroughly before moving to another area.
STIs can be passed through anal contact, so barrier protection and regular testing are recommended.
When to seek help
A little initial discomfort can be normal, but you should see your GP or a sexual health clinic if you have ongoing pain, bleeding that doesn't quickly settle, or any object that becomes stuck. Rectal bleeding should always be checked by a doctor.
Where to get help
This article is for general information and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Sexual health services in the UK are free and confidential on the NHS — including STI testing, contraception, and advice.
If you have symptoms, pain, bleeding, or any concerns, contact your GP or a local sexual health (GUM) clinic. You can find services and trusted information at nhs.uk.
Medical disclaimer
This content is provided for general information and education only and aligns with publicly available NHS guidance. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your GP, pharmacist or a sexual health clinic with any questions about a medical condition. In the UK, sexual health services are free and confidential — find them at nhs.uk.